Widowed urged to join friendship group events for just three minutes to regain lost confidence

Widowed urged to join friendship group events for just three minutes to regain lost confidence

by Henry James (June 2022)

TO help widowed residents overcome the difficult first step of socialising again after loss Ormskirk & Southport Oddfellows, a local friendship group, is inviting visitors along to its events for just three minutes.

The unusual offer is based on the ‘Three Minute Carrot Method’, which gives people permission to stop or leave something after three minutes instead of feeling daunted by staying for an hour.

The technique was suggested to the group by Clinical Psychologist and author, Dr Jennifer Wild, who was asked for her advice on ways in which people can rebuild social confidence after losing a partner.

Judith Catton, social events organiser in Ormskirk & Southport said: “Trying something new can be nerve-wracking, especially if it’s the first time an individual has really put themselves in a social setting without having their partner by their side.

“We’d obviously love people to stay for the entirety of our events, but we also recognise that people need to move at their own pace. So, if you decide that three minutes is enough for you that day, that’s totally fine. If you want to stay longer, then that’s great also.

Valerie Woolley from Birkdale, who has been a group member for more than five years said: “Going along to a meet a new group of people is easier said than done, especially when you are used to having someone support you. But once I got over the hurdle of first introductions any concerns just melted away, the Oddfellows couldn’t have made me feel more welcome.”

Ormskirk & Southport Oddfellows organises social events for its members across the area.

It holds regular coffee mornings/afternoons each month where newcomers are always welcome to come along and give it a try.

“We say ring or email us ahead of your first event to let us know you’re coming, so we can explain exactly where we meet and we can welcome you,” added Judith.

In addition to attending regular social events, Oddfellows members can access financial benefits and welfare support, with a dedicated care helpline and citizens advice team, and a travel club.

Anyone wishing to attend an upcoming event, or to receive a local events diary, contact Judith Catton on 01704 545279 or email judith.catton@oddfellows.co.uk

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